It is so easy in the midst of nappy changes and chasing a baby to forget to take a minute to be grateful & appreciative. Today I want to dedicate this post to my loving husband because becoming parents truly made me appreciate him so much more.
*Readers be warned this post is extremely cheesy!
When I was pregnant with my son my husband took me to most of my doctors appointments and scans (I say most because I traveled to Australia when I was pregnant but luckily he did manage to come during my last trimester and accompany me to the rest my midwife’s appointments). When I was in the waiting room for my appointments I saw many pregnant women who didn’t have that support unfortunately; which made me feel very blessed that he was there.
When I was giving birth to our son he was in the delivery room, I know most of you will wonder why is that so special because most dads in the West are expected to enter with their wives/ partners. My husband is born in Saudi and raised in Kenya. In Saudi (I don’t think it is even permissible for the men to enter the delivery room, correct me if I’m wrong!) and in Kenya it is not common even though recently more and more younger fathers are willing to enter to support their wives. There is a huge misconception that if I man enters the delivery room he won’t be attracted to you (which is complete nonsense if you ask me). When I tell people that my husband witnessed the birth of our son I get so many shocking responses. I’m grateful that he didn’t refuse like any typical African/ Muslim man and I’m thankful he was there with me.
I’m the last-born in my family and I had very limited experience with newborns and babies until I became a mother. My husband on the other hand had zero experience in that field. This soon changed! He learned how to change nappies and he helps me change our son whenever I’m busy. When we started baby E on formula my husband was extremely supportive, he would prepare his bottles and feed him. In fact he still does that which I love. This includes the night feeds because our son still doesn’t sleep through the night.
He is honestly the ideal partner, I was so scared of all the pressures that come with being a new mum especially after I moved to Kenya and I no longer had my mum’s support. Surprisingly my husband became my greatest support when it comes to the baby. He gives me a break and lets me have “me time” whenever I need it. He takes the baby and they play together while I rest or watch a show. Some morning when our son wakes up extra early he would usually let me get an extra hour of sleep and he would take care of the baby. Change his nappy, give him breakfast and play with him (Just perfect).
My husband also takes care of all the bills and our finances; which is great because as first time mum I feel like I have a lot on my plate. If he left me to handle the bills, rests assure that I would forget one or the other. I can say thanks to him we still have water running in our tabs and we are not living in darkness. Some days I don’t feel like cooking but thankfully my husband always comes to the rescue. He would order for us take out and he would always ask me “ what do you feel like eating today?” he would always make me pick what we are going to eat. Luckily we have very similar taste in junk food, hahaha
Last weekend my husband planned a date for us, which honestly melted my heart, he arranged with my in laws to take care of our son while we go watch a movie. The last time I watched a movie in the cinema was early last year!! That’s how long it’s been. To make things more prefect we went to watch a movie of my choice and I wanted to watch Bridget Jones’s baby. He didn’t complain once about the movie. He made the whole day about me, which made me so happy. I felt like we were newly weds again.
I’m blessed to be married to such a wonderful guy. I pray that all the ladies out there find love like I did. If you are reading this and already have a special someone in your life I pray that your relationship will last and blossom.
Does your husband/partner help you with the baby? After becoming parents do you still have date nights?
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